What your think about others reveals a lot about yourself. Catching yourself in judgement is a first step to bringing wholeness into your life.
There is a message behind our complaints, judgements and frustrations with others. Judgement is almost always a projection. Often it’s not about them, it’s all about you. We end up projecting our brokenness or an unhealed part of our lives upon someone else.
Catching yourself judging others is the first step to healing your emotional wounds.
Notice every time you react to what someone has said or done because this is really a message to you, about you.
On the surface scenarios that bother you seem to have nothing to do with you. But if you are having a reaction to what someone has said or done, know this, it’s about you!
This is tough stuff!
Our personal criticisms and frustrations about others many times mirror exactly how we secretly feel about ourselves.
But it is so much easier to point the finger at someone else and not own up to the fact we might be ‘guilty’ of similar behaviour.
So, whenever you have a strong reaction to what someone else is doing ask yourself — do I do that, even a little bit?
Awareness is always the first step.
Is there someone who doesn’t answer your emails and it annoys you to no end? Do you fail to respond to an email even though you have seen it. Have you left other people questioning their value because you haven’t responded to them and it doesn’t have to be just emails.
These judgements are like a bright neon sign flashing a message about ourselves. Because every time I think somebody should act a different way, I am being judgemental.
When we are being judgemental we are actuality projecting our own shortcomings and failures in this same area on them.
Admitting this about ourselves is extremely painful. It’s a knife that cuts deep.
As long as I refuse to pay attention to my judgements and the message they are sending me, I will continue wasting my time and my life on the problems that everyone else has. I will stay unhappy and remain bitter and angry while waiting for others to get their act together.
For years I have tried to deal with my judgemental thoughts. But it wasn’t until I understood that my judgements were speaking about areas in my life that needed healing could I begin to deal with my judgemental heart.
“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:5 NIV)