Is love really blind? Did you watch that show?
I’m not a big fan of the show “Love is Blind” but where I live, including at home, other people are big fans. I hear many discussions and strong opinions, with names of people I don’t know, who were in the show. For example, we can talk about Shaina and Kyle, a couple who didn’t make it. Shaina ended the relationship with Kyle before they got married on television, but they came close.
They may be famous now, but they are not together. The show brings together men and women, to be married. They meet by sitting in rooms separated by a wall, and they first speak to each other through the wall. They don’t get to see each other until after the man proposes, and they decide to get married. If they stay together, they have a wedding, on the show.
Here is a sample blind conversation:
You can probably tell; Shaina identifies as a Christian and Kyle calls himself an Atheist. They seem to be bright, healthy, and good-looking people, and it is easy to imagine them getting married, and raising some nice children.
It all ended because of who they were. Shaina didn’t want to be a Christian married to an Atheist, and Kyle didn’t see a problem. He gave the impression that he didn’t take religion seriously, and he didn’t think a few superstitious beliefs in his wife would cause difficulty.
We can question why she went on the show and played the game, but we can also learn something from her experience. With any couple, if one person believes something, and person two doesn’t believe, the second person will probably dismiss the ideas that they don’t believe in. That is simple logic to the unbeliever.
It’s easy to see the couples’ problem.
Did you know, that sometimes, no one cares what you think? They only want you to agree with the group, and you can keep your personal opinions private. That applies to sports, politics, religion, morals, and anything else that you believe.
‘Why be you when you could be one of us?’
So, here are some questions. Try to give an answer in one or two sentences:
- Who are you? Or – What are a few things that are very important to you, and those things define who you are.
- Do you have a religion? Or – Do you believe and hope in something that is much bigger than you?
- Are there some people you avoid? Or – Do your personal beliefs separate you from some other people?
Try these questions on a few friends. In modern times, people don’t like to stand out from the group, and it might be hard to get answers about each person. Most people that I know will talk about a group that they support, and not about themselves.
I am a Christian, and I know how believers like me are treated. We can be ignored and dismissed, or we can be labelled and dismissed. Step two happens when step one fails. We are close to a time when Christians are labelled with ugly names, including “Right Wing”, “Something – phobic” and “Racist.” This is coming down on us; we won’t be treated better than anyone else.
So, how do we live in this new world?
We are told:
Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. (1 Peter 3:15)
Tell us who you are.
In the video clip from “Love is Blind” we can see a Christian struggling to be what she is. Her beliefs are not important to modern people, and she is dismissed. We know the second step of offensive labelling is close.
In this world with powers that don’t want other opinions, I hope that you can find yourself. You will last longer than any temporary group-think fad, and you are more important.
I hope you know that God has one interest; you:
You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. (Psalm 139: 1, 2 and 3)