When God created woman, He used a strange Hebrew word to describe her role in marriage. She would be a “help meet.”
18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 King James)
Other Bible versions, like the NASV, describe her as a “helper.”
It leaves the impression that God intended women to help men and some go so far as to interpret this as perhaps even a servant.
In fact, a closer look at the two Hebrew words involved leaves a slightly different impression.
The Hebrew word for “help” (ezer) is derived from two Hebrew words that mean “to rescue” and “to save.” The word eventually came to mean “to be strong” to “save in strength.”
The same word is used in Deuteronomy, to describe God’s help:
“There is none like the God of Jeshurun,
Who rides the heavens to your help [ezer],
And through the skies in His majesty. (Deuteronomy 33:26 NASV)
So how was woman to help man?
The word “meet” is the Hebrew word “k’negdo” which is an odd word because of its wide range of meanings like being “in front of” (translated before Genesis 33:12), against (Job 10:17) , contrary (Numbers 22:32) and opposite (Genesis 21:16).
So essentially a wife was to help her husband by being opposed or against him?
Many husbands would say, oh yeah my wife certainly does that.
Does this mean it’s the woman’s role to fight with her husband?
But it does mean that God created women with a unique perspective on life and the many issues we encounter from raising children to dealing with the inlaws.
She has different opinions and solutions and at times, they will even be opposite her husband’s way of doing it.
What God intended is that a woman, because of her unique perspective, would balance out a man’s take on the situation.
The man isn’t always right and neither is the woman, but a woman provides a counter balance and if a man as the head of the home (Ephesians 5:23) is wise he will accept her role and allow her opinions to moderate his.
And in this way she will be his help meet, his strength and even rescuer.