My mind can be my best friend or worst enemy depending on what I choose to believe about myself.
In other words, my body responds to messages I send it via my thoughts.
Many times, while trying on clothes in a store, I have stood in front of the mirror and criticized myself for being fat.
There is, undeniably, a mind-body connection and statements like “I am fat” affect our mental, emotional and physical well-being.
I have shut myself down many times because of my negative thinking and the demeaning language that followed.
Waking up and feeling gloomy because the sun isn’t shining often sets the mood and tone of my day and this in turn determines how productive it will be as well.
The Bible tells us that our thoughts dictate who we become. The mind of a man reflects who he really is, not just his actions or words .
“Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23)
Guarding the heart really means the inner core of a person — the thoughts, feelings ,desires, will, and choices — that make the person who she/he really is.
Ultimately, I am the one who controls my thoughts, not God or anyone else.
Most of us function in the opposite manner. Rather than guarding our heart, we allow our emotions to rule our minds.
We believe that we have to feel positive, before we think positively.
Understanding that our minds are more powerful than our feelings is a powerful tool. We need to ask ourselves what thoughts can we think that will fuel our emotions for a positive outcome.
We have to think of ourselves, the way God thinks of us — “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).
Devaluing ourselves is a non-productive, unhealthy practice and certainly not how our Heavenly Father wants us to live. We can only shame ourselves for so long before these thoughts twist our perception of ourselves.
Recently, on a Facebook post, famed Christian author and speaker Joyce Meyers made this statement:
“Until we accept and approve of ourselves, no amount of approval from others will keep us permanently secure.”
We must take charge of our lives by taking charge of our thoughts.
Affirming ourselves with positive statements changes the way we feel about ourselves and our circumstances. It is how we learn to love ourselves in the light of God’s love.
These were Jesus words:
“Love your neighbor as yourself”.
Simply, we can’t even come close to loving others the way God wants us too until we first love ourselves. Treating ourselves with love and respect by speaking kindly of ourselves can and will change everything.
If we don’t like ourselves, can we really love others?