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John Piper responds to Ben’s porn addiction


In a recent article, Pastor John Piper responded to Ben, a young man struggling to break his addiction to porn. Porn is only a click away and Ben, had started watching it when he was just 10 years old. He has been struggling with it since then with some victories and wondered if it would affect his upcoming marriage.

The Blaze provides Piper’s response:

“One of my concerns in even addressing Ben’s question or talking to him directly in this way is that I can’t tell from his question whether he has gotten victory over this or not, because he says, ‘There have been wonderful victories along the way.’ That doesn’t sound like … the pornographic videos are behind him, but that he keeps returning to them, perhaps with less frequency,” Piper insists. “That’s not going to do. You can’t set your sights that low.”

He continues, “Here’s my suggested path toward hope, Ben. First, humble yourself by admitting that, for the rest of your life, those seven years of poisoning your mind are going to have consequences that you are responsible for and that will require unusual self-abasement in relation to your sexual expectations and your wife.”

Piper also implores his female listeners who are considering marriage at any point in their lives and emphasizes the importance of confronting their future partners about pornography.

“And you should insist on victory, never to look at pornography — not simply infrequent exposure,” he adds. “Too many people today think that pornography is just inevitable; it’s a given, and marriages should just cope, just adapt to it. I think that’s like saying, ‘Poison is inevitable, and I’m just going to get used to taking poison.'”

For more READ: Man asks popular Christian pastor if porn has broken his future marriage. Pastor issues a heartfelt and damning response about dangers of pornography.

Porn causing Impotency in young men

But pornography certainly has the potential to affect marriage, as studies report that porn is starting to affect a man’s ability to have sexual relations in marriage. They are also reporting that men in their 20s and 30s are now struggling with impotency.

In a study reported in Psychology Today, Marnia Robinson says that these rising levels of impotency are being caused by porn. When viewing porn, you receive a “dopamine spike,” but as a person views more porn this dulls a person’s response to the spikes, requiring even more extreme porn to get higher “dopamine spikes.”

This can eventually impact a person’s ability to have normal sexual relationships.

Robinson explains:

“It’s all free, easy to access, available within seconds, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Overstimulation of the reward circuitry in the brain is a very real possibility today. Many men don’t realize their brain’s sensitivity is declining towards normal sex because Internet erotica delivers endless dopamine hits.”

But there is hope, as the article goes onto report on how one man broke his porn addiction:

  1. “This is 100% fixable;
  2. “It will likely be one of the most difficult things you’ve ever done;
  3. “If you ever want a normal sex life again, you kinda don’t have another choice.”

READ: Porn numbs body’s response to sexual pleasure: Psychology Today

RELATED: Internet pornography destroying men’s ability to perform with real women, finds study AND Flood of pornography threatening marriage and the church

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