In England, the feminist message is fully embraced in the Church of England where separate offices have been set up for feminist theologians. The church’s liturgy has been emasculated changing references to God from Father to mother. The Bible is being rewritten to engender sexual neutrality.
The fruit of this transformation is showing up in church statistics. The ratio of men to women in the Church of England has sunk from 45% men and 55% women prior to 1990 to 37% men and 63% women today. At the same time, attendance in the Church of England is in a steady decline.
But if a study done in Switzerland is any indication, this feminist influence in Liberal churches may be one of the reasons why church attendance is in a downward spiral.
Women have important roles to play in the church ranging from the prophetic (not just the gift of prophecy) to teaching. There is plenty of room for women in ministry, but women’s roles should not be achieved by demeaning fatherhood.
God created men to have a prominent role in the development of their children’s faith. Prior to establishing the “official” priesthood in Israel under Aaron, fathers filled the priestly role (Gen 8:20; 22:30).
In 1994, Swiss researchers Werner Haug and Phillipe Warner of Switzerland’s Statistics office conducted a study to determine what factors paved the way for the successful transference of the parent’s faith to the next generation — specifically measured by church attendance. They used stats from from the Swiss census which tracked various aspects of Swiss life including religious.
What Haug and Warner discovered was absolutely startling. One of the most important factors affecting a child’s future church attendance as an adult was their father’s attendance.
The study entitled, The demographic characteristics of the linguistic and religious groups in Switzerland, looked at the full spectrum of Switzerland’s religious breakdown. Switzerland’s population is just over 7 million: 46% consider themselves catholic, 40% protestant, 9% no religion and 5% other.
Since it encompassed orthodox, liberals and evangelicals, it did not measure the influence of Biblical faith, prayer and the Holy Spirit in a child’s future participation in church. But nevertheless it revealed the important role fathers have in faith transference.
Here is what the study found
Not surprisingly, in families where neither parent attended church, only 4% of their children became regular attendees, 15% were classified as irregular attendees and over 80% did not attend at all.
The numbers improved when the mother attended church regularly and the father not at all. In these families, 2% of their children went on to attend services regularly, 37% attended irregularly and 61% not at all. It showed that the mother’s faithful attendance had a positive influence on future church attendance by her children.
The father’s impact
However, the study showed that the biggest influence on a child’s future church attendance — either regularly or irregularly — was the father’s church attendance. Not surprisingly, the level of the father’s faithfulness in church attendance was also a reason.
There was a dramatic increase in regular church attendance, when both dad and mom attended church on a regular basis. In these families, 33% of their children attend regularly, 41% irregularly and 26% did not attend at all.
When dad was an irregular attendee and the mother regular, 3% of the children were regular church attendees, 59% irregular and 38% did not attend at all.
However, one of the most stunning statistics showed up in when the father was more faithful in church attendance than the mother. In homes where the father was a regular church attendee and the mother irregular, 38% of the children went on to regularly attend church, 44% attended irregularly and 18% did not attend at all.
Incredibly, a child’s future church attendance was best in families where fathers attended church more than the mother. It even bettered families where both parents regularly attended.
Even when the father attended church irregularly and the mother didn’t at all, 25% of the children went on to attend church regularly, 23% irregularly and 52% not at all. This compared to families where mothers attended regularly and the father not at all where the numbers were 2%, 37% and 61% respectively.
For some reason, the mother’s indifference strengthened the father’s influence in the spiritual development of the family.
It is difficult to understand why. But let me suggest this possibility. If children are looking to their fathers for spiritual guidance, in families where the father attended church — despite their mother’s indifference — it proved the sincerity of the father’s faith. This may also suggest that in situations where both mother and father are regular church attendees, the father may be attending because of the mother’s influence, a fact being picked up by the children.
Commenting on this study, Anglican Vicar Robbie Low says, “when the child begins to move into that differentiation from home and engagement with the world out there, he (and she) looks increasingly to the father for that role model.”
However, mother’s fighting alone in their faith should not be dismayed. As I mentioned earlier, this study did not calculate the influence of a true faith in God, belief in prayer and working of the Holy Spirit.
The Apostle Paul acknowledged the significant role Timothy’s mother Eunice and grandmother Lois had developing his faith (2 Tim 1:5). Though we are not sure of the father’s status, clearly an active faith and prayer of these two women played a key role in Timothy’s life and eventual call to the ministry.
But even in single parent families, fathers are still important and God has promised to be the Father to her fatherless children (Ps 68:5). In these situations I believe the Holy Spirit will take a special interest in the lives of the children.
Kathy Woodard in her article, Father’s Knows Best, summed it up this way:
“The leadership of the man within a family is like the law of gravity: you can try to wish it away; you can argue it’s unfair. But walk off the edge of a building and you plummet. Likewise with fatherhood — try to ignore it and your civilization collapses.”
- The truth about men, by Robbie Low (www.trushare.com)
- Church attendance: the family, feminism and the declining role of fatherhood, by Richard Egan
- Father knows best by Kathy Woodard (Western Standard: April 10, 2006)