Recently, I had an appointment with a young lady. Halfway through, my daughter arrived bringing me a coffee and joined us for the last half of the appointment.
I love this young gal, and she obviously felt the freedom to express her thoughts on various world views.
But the conversation was starting to become intense. Something had triggered her and I wasn’t able to figure out what it was or why.
In the middle of this, she abruptly stopped and said, “I would give anything to have the relationship you and your daughter have.”
Then she started to talk about her own father and it was then I realized she was talking about the relationship my daughter had with her dad. My daughter joked about her dad and how he likes to tease her. My daughter loves her dad, and they have a good relationship.
I had found the trigger and the explanation why the conversation had become so intense. I looked at her and asked what the relationship with her father was like.
She replied, “I couldn’t do anything to make that man like me.”
I wondered then if her frustration and anger with world events and politics was actually rooted in a broken relationship with her father.
As she continued to tell her story my heart broke. She has struggled with suicidal thoughts and alcohol but thankfully chose to take things into her own hands and change the direction of her life.
She went for counselling which she added wasn’t cheap.
‘Death is not an option for me now,” she said.
This young woman now works with people who have cut themselves and tried to take their own life. I could see purpose in her life but I did not leave it at just that.
I stood in front of her and spoke to her directly:
“Look who you have become now. You are an amazing, intelligent, gifted woman who gives hope to others,” I said. Her eyes teared up and I added, “and I am going to be coming in here from time to time and remind you of that.”
I had many thoughts afterwards and despite world views and opinions, I know too many people who have a horrible perception of God that has been distorted by the angry or absent face of their earthly father.
This has created a rejection wound that runs so deep that any thought of a loving heavenly Father is simply beyond their comprehension, because those who have experienced rejection from their earthly fathers tend to transfer the hurt, rejection and wounding on God, their heavenly Father.
But Jesus desires to change this. He wants to heal our brokeness, anger and wounds and restore us to our heavenly Father:
Below is a message that entreats those wounded by earthly father experiences to not transfer them onto God, their Heavenly Father: