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The invisible woman


Painting by Frederick Carl Frieseke (1874-1939) Credit: Museum of Fine Arts, Houston/Wikipedia

Painting by Frederick Carl Frieseke (1874-1939) Credit: Museum of Fine Arts, Houston/Wikipedia

Do you sometimes feel invisible to the people you interact with during the day.  Even if acknowledged it often doesn’t feel sincere enough to satisfy you.

I felt that way for many years. I believed I wasn’t significant enough to be acknowledged and seen for who I really was. People didn’t really know me.

I have learned after all these years that the way I was feeling (insignificant in the eyes of others) was a mirror reflection of the way I really felt about myself.

I had to dive deep into my emotions and my  past  to find the source of my  invisibility pattern.  So much of what I was mirroring to others was directly related to things that happened to me 10, 15 or 20 years ago.

In other words, in my own eyes I was invisible and felt unworthy of the attention and significance that came from wholesome relationships that I really longed for.

Often women are stuck in ‘old stories’, experiences and unpleasant memories that leave us struggling in our everyday interaction with people. We believe others think we are insignificant, because we consider ourselves insignificant.

I allowed my past woundings to stifle my  emotional and spiritual growth.

We end up wallowing in the limited beliefs we have created about ourselves because of these experiences. Our lack of self-worth and limiting beliefs shape our future possibilities, choices and actions without even realizing it.

This is often called ‘our inner glass ceiling.’

I had placed limitations on myself from old stories of the past.  These acted as a glass ceiling that I kept bouncing off.  I was  stifling myself  and pulling  back when I could have moved forward.

Many times we are still blaming something or someone as the reason we can’t move forward and be successful now. We will remain powerless to change if we keep blaming our past circumstances for the present.

Life wasn’t happening to me, life and people were responding to me.

I have been working at  shattering my glass ceiling ( old limiting core beliefs) for some time now.  Often the way people respond to me helps me  recognize whether I am mirroring a woman who holds significance and feels good about herself or if I am reflecting back to them one who is still caught in ‘old stories’ and experiences from my past.

Throwing  off those old beliefs that were formed from past experiences has been possible for me through  forgiving those who hurt and offended me. Are their specific incidents that come to your memory of things that happened years ago that devalued you?  Things people said to you or about you?

We need to forgive and keep forgiving until those memories begin to fade.

Once we have thrown off the old, then we can connect with our true identity that is in Christ. We are loved and we hold great value and worth in the eyes and heart of God.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come.  The old has gone, the new is here!” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKV)

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