One of our greatest fears is that we will be appear selfish to others and mar the perception of a selfless, self-sacrificing woman who puts the needs of their loved ones and ‘others’ before her own needs. We are more concerned about the outward appearance of our cup with its chips and cracks from service than the fullness of our cup inside where the water level is dangerously low, barely covering the bottom of our cup. We have been culturally programmed, even in church settings, that being a good mother or Christian woman means you are always available for the needs of others before your own.  We don’t want to mar our outward appearance of having it all together, but inside we feel empty. I have taken great comfort this past year as I began to understand what Christ meant when He said: “And I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself.” (John 12:32) The definition of the word draw in the Greek means to pull or drag, …