All posts tagged: self-doubt

Evil Guilt

Some things about sports that I like are that there are rules and assigned times and places. As much as I love hockey if a bunch of hockey players turned my bedroom into an arena at three in the morning, I would not be very enthusiastic about it. And if a team followed the other team home and harassed them after the game, it would not be tolerated by the league. Unfortunately, there is no league of self. There are no rules about time and place. There are no provisions for fairness. I’d rather face the toughest team in the world than go up against the King of Kaos, the Twister of Tales, the Slayer of self, that most vicious fighter of all time…me! Yup. Little old me. I wasn’t always a servant of the Most High God or even a reputable and credible man. It took some time to get here, and there are battles that go on still today. Many of these fights are spiritual such as victory over temptation or choosing prayer …

The struggle to choose the right path. Credit: James Wheeler/Flickr/Creative Commons

Why do I second guess myself?

Dear Andy Every time I make a decision I doubt myself.  I have very little confidence in myself and many decisions I made have been disastrous.  What can I do to feel more confident and to make better decisions? There are many reasons why someone lacks confidence in their decisions. First I would look at the evidence. No one makes all the right decisions all the time. Perhaps you are focusing on the ones that had less than stellar results. Perhaps there is a history of poor decision making. Many people can be very adept at making decisions in some areas of their lives but not in other areas. For example, a business person might make wise decisions regarding finances or planning for the future but make poor ones regarding dating or relationships. If you are like this, then your focus needs to change from the poor decisions and towards the good decisions you made. Look at the difference between the two. Try to find common themes with the good ones. For example, perhaps they …